Personal Development

7 Reasons Why You Should Forgive and Forget

Written by Zane Baker

Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.”
~ Marianne Williamson.

Forgiveness is one of the most positive things that you can do. Forgiveness marks the beginning of a new chapter for you to celebrate.

You see, forgiveness does not change the past, but it definitely has an effect on your future.

We’ve all heard it a thousand times “Forgiveness is good for you.”

But when we are hurt, forgiving just seems almost unnatural, right?

Here we’ll explore not one but 7 reasons why you should forgive and forget even if part of you doesn’t want to.

Why You Should Forgive

1. Forgiveness Heals Your Inner Being
When you wake up in the morning and start the day with a plan, you go in your own merry way doing your best to accomplish your tasks, goals, and aspiration.
But when there is an inner conflict within you due to an incident or a thing that caused you to harbour the feeling of resentment towards another person, your desire to achieve the best is weakened. The element of resentment is never positive and due to its pure dark nature; resentment fester and lodges itself deep in your psyche. So, by allowing yourself to forgive someone, you give yourself the permission to heal, forget and move forward.

2. Forgiveness Brings You a Peace of Mind.
Forgiveness means giving ourselves the command to focus on the positive instead of the negative. Negative thoughts and obsessing over what others might’ve done wrong towards us disturb our inner peace and cause us to lose track of things which are of higher importance to us. Our mind and heart are wired together. So if you keep the hate/resentment in your heart, you are doing mind and emotions no good. Essentially, you have to let the mistakes of others vanish with time, and allow the beautiful things to start appearing in your life.

3. Forgiveness Opens You Up to Love
When we are interacting time with friends and family, misunderstanding is bound to happen as we are only human. Assumptions have a negative impact on any relationship, and if we don’t ask and clarify those assumptions with the ones that we interact with, then misunderstanding occurs which eventually leads to distrust and then hate. The simple act of clarifying, and forgiving when miscommunication occurs opens your heart and soul and increase your capability to love. You forgive because you value the other person in your life, and this works both ways. The easy act of forgiveness will lead to you to a filled with love.

4. Forgiveness Helps You Grow
As we go grow, we experience negative things that are done to us by others. When we were children, we had the gift of seeing the good in everyone and every situation. We also had the gift to forgive others quickly. Over time, more trauma, hurt is done to us by people who claim to love us and that’s how we learn to hold a grudge because its our bodies defense mechanism. The only problem with this strategy is, it turns us to cold and callous individuals who have a hard time trusting other people. But all hope is not lost, because through forgiveness, we can attain that childlike selfless love once again and, therefore frees us from the burdens of the past allowing us to grow wiser, happier, and more in control.

5. Forgiveness Restores Hope
Acceptance of apology might be the first step to forgiveness but you have to initiate the forgiveness even without it. You have to clear your mind of the emotional poison and first forgive yourself and then forgive others. When you forgive yourself you, you restore your storage with hope for tomorrow and future. Your habit of forgiveness brings the change in you which you have always wanted.

6. Forgiveness Strengthen Compassion.
When you stop seeing the shortcoming of other, forgive them and see the other party as just another human being who’s doing his/her best, you strengthen your compassion towards others. Remember we are all humans, and we are not all the same. My weakness might be a strength point in you and your strength might be my weakness. We have to stop searching for perfection and accept that people have problems which they have to deal.

7. Forgiveness Lets You See The Big Picture and Beyond
Resentment does not allow you to look at a not-too-fancy of a situation and learn from it. If you really want to learn from the mistakes and never want to do them again, you have to forgive and then look at things from a different perspective .You have to keep your eyes focused on the big picture; the decision made you in the past are just that “IN THE PAST”, learn to forgive and forget!

My friend, honor your emotions, honor your struggle, but learn to let the past stay in the past, forgive in the now, and allow the future to manifest itself into your life.

Thank you for reading! Please let me know in the comments below what other reasons that you find important to forgive and forget.

With Love,
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Zane Baker

Zane Baker is A Master Success Coach & Inspirational Speaker | Co-Founder of The Valhalla Mind Institute | Co-Founder of The My Daily Zen Transformational Program| Creator of The Valhalla Institute Newsletter | Creator of The Valhalla Mind Community, one of the most active self-growth and personal development Facebook Pages with over 380,000+ followers and growing.

4 Comments

  • Hi Zane, and Thank you for inviting me to leave a comment.
    First, 1 thought regarding Forgiveness Is: We are Drinking the
    poison we want the other person to Drink”
    UN-Forgiveness Hurts us Indeed”

    I remember some time ago, some medical studies were Done. Dr. Lorain Day announced this once In an Interview. (paraphrase)-” We have seen Damaged sick cells fully repair under a microscope” when the person-patient Forgave!
    Damaged disfigured cells become healthy perfectly round & glowing again”

    Our Health Is a system that connects body mind and spirit.
    This has been proven. Are Biological bodies and how we think and feel dose Indeed effect our bodies. The whole of us entirely. One system. This has never and will never be taught with-in the AMA schools here. A-side from that…I must say regarding forgiveness; This Is the biggest misunderstanding about It I see.

    Is simply people some how got the Notion from somewhere, they must feel (Good) about forgiving before they commit to It. It’s Ironic. Forgiveness Is almost never pleasant; What I mean or am getting to, Is the most Important time to forgive Is Instantly. It Is an act of obedience to God and Our High -responsibility. You are taking care of yourself. It’s Important like making sure you eat and rest. So I wish you all Instant forgiveness when you’re offended. It dose not always feel good; but It Is one of the most Important habits In life you will acquire.
    Sincere Thanks
    Dale.

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