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Can monthly date nights save your marriage?

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Written by Zane Baker

A new study says couples who have a night out together once a month are less likely to break up. We took to the streets to ask what you do!

Can monthly date nights REALLY save your marriage?

Did you know that one date a month with your beloved spouse could save your marriage?

According to a new study, married couples are 14% less likely to split if they regularly enjoy a date night.

Also, based on the study, married couples who make date night a regular thing are reporting being healthier and happier.

I know what you might think!

Zane, I barely able to keep up with work, bills, being married, and now you’re telling me that I need to find the time to go on a date with my husband or wife?

Well, guys what’s the alternative!

We work hard at everything in our lives, and our marriage shouldn’t be any difference.

Don’t stress out over it and just simply make the time at least once a month to go with your significant other and do something alone as a couple.

Maybe go to the movies, or even better a stay at home dinner for just you two while watching Netflix.

Just be creative!

Below, I have an amazing interview conducted by The Guardian where they took this question “Can a monthly date night REALLY save your marriage?” to the streets!

Let’s go explore what people are saying about this study!


This article titled “Can monthly date nights save your marriage?” was written by Ellie Violet Bramley, for The Guardian on Monday 26th September 2016 16.32 UTC

Whether it’s a trip to the Odeon, a night of cheese and wine or a visit to your local Quasar, date night could be saving your marriage – but only if it’s monthly.

According to a new study by the Marriage Foundation, couples who have a date night once a month are 14% less likely to break up.

Weekly date nights apparently did not increase the chances of couples staying together, and the effect worked only for those partners who had put a ring on it – not cohabitees, for whom the “date night”, according to Harry Benson and Stephen McKay, who carried out the research, is “less intentional, simply a night out”.

So we asked the public what they think: is “date night” a marriage-saver? An expensive way to spend a Tuesday evening? Or is the mere mention of organized marital fun enough to make them queasy …?

Jack Rogers, 75, Calgary, married 47 years

Jack Rogers
Jack Rogers. Photograph: Frantzesco Kangaris for the Guardian

We’ve always had regular date nights, as a habit or tradition – we go to movies twice a week; Friday and Sunday matinee. Our last date night was on Saturday, we went out for fish and chips.

I’m sure date nights have helped my marriage – just doing things together, things to look forward to. I think my wife enjoys them – that’s why I’m allowed to stay.

Laura, 48, Wapping, married four years

Laura.
Laura

We try to go on date nights once a week, but it depends. We generally go out for a meal – sit and chat in a nice environment. And I’m an artist so we go to openings. Sometimes the theater.

I think date nights are important because you can get too complacent in the home routine and take the other person for granted, so it’s important to take a step back and look at each other; get some perspective.

Beta Varplicanskyte, 26, London, getting married next year

Beta Varplicanskyte.
Beta Varplicanskyte

We probably have a date night twice a month as a minimum. When he arranges it, we go to restaurants; when I arrange it, we go parachuting – that was nice.

We’ve always gone on date nights – it’s less now because we live together. Even if you’re at home after work, you’re not really together, are you?

You’re just doing your separate thing.

Ashish Bhatnagar, 38, Chiswick, married nine years

Ashish Bhatnagar.
Ashish Bhatnagar

We go on date nights once a week. We usually just go for a Saturday lunch; we both like Thai.

They’re definitely important – a break from our Monday-to-Friday routine. Before our kid was born, we went more regularly.

Helen Pool, 63, Glasgow, married 34 years

Helen Pool.
Helen Pool

We go out twice a month, usually for a meal or to the cinema. Or we go away for the weekend – we like city breaks: Rotterdam was last, Madrid, Paris … It is romantic – do I have to admit to that?

Date nights have without a doubt helped our relationship. Now the children are grown up, we’re a lot closer and it’s almost like going back to when we used to go out. What we do on date nights has changed, though. I used to go to rugby, football, that kind of thing. Now it’s more time spent just the two of us.

James Sleigh, 43, Cambridge, married 16 years

James Sleigh.
James Sleigh

We go out maybe once every three months – we have two small children so that makes it difficult. Before kids, it happened much more regularly – every week. My wife is a cookery publisher, so if I’m lucky she might take me somewhere cool to eat. I go where I’m told. Before kids, it would be either food or music; back in the day we’d go to indie rock gigs.

It’s very important now, because it’s a kind of psychological life raft where we actually get to talk to each other – we have a bitch about work, which is difficult to do at home.

Seeta Maharaj, 50, married 11 years

Seeta Maharaj.
Seeta Maharaj

We go on date nights once a week. We like to go out for a meal – Thai, Indian, Chinese. Or to listen to music – mostly classical and poppy, folky things. We’ve always gone regularly and we make a point of it.

He lives in Eastbourne at the moment and I’m living in London temporarily so we go out when we meet up at the weekend. I think it gives our relationship momentum and makes us excited to see each other. Date nights keep the relationship alive.

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In conclusion, even though marriages were meant to be a way of celebrating love but sadly due to all the madness that we call life we have to work at them and at times we even need to save them.

So take active action towards bettering your marriage!

In the above interview, you’ve seen how couple made date night a thing as well as got creative in the process.

So, go on dates! Have fun and simply save your marriage proactively!

To a successful and everlasting marriage!

Love and Light,
Zane

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Zane Baker

Zane Baker is A Master Success Coach & Inspirational Speaker | Co-Founder of The Valhalla Mind Institute | Co-Founder of The My Daily Zen Transformational Program| Creator of The Valhalla Institute Newsletter | Creator of The Valhalla Mind Community, one of the most active self-growth and personal development Facebook Pages with over 380,000+ followers and growing.

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